| ID | 146076 |
| Title Proper | Doing it our way |
| Other Title Information | love and marriage in Kolkata middle-class families |
| Language | ENG |
| Author | DONNER, HENRIKE |
| Summary / Abstract (Note) | With the exception of a few anthropologists working on gender, much of the recent literature on emerging intimate modernities in South Asia, and the middle class in India in particular, seems to support a view of social relationships evolving in a kind of linear development towards free choice, individualism, and identities based on sexual preference. This imagery is particularly prominent in the representation and self-representation of metropolitan, educated middle-class youths, whose views dominate popular media representations and are associated with secularism, individualism, and independence from family and community. In this article I argue that apart from the ostensibly overwhelming transformations that discourses on coupledom, love, choice and self-realization bring in their wake, new ways of choosing a spouse and of conducting conjugal relations among middle-class urbanites have to be interpreted in relation to much more subtle and long-standing social transformations as well as existing institutional forms, in particular the practical implications of patrilocality and the ideology and reality of the joint family. Based on fieldwork with Bengali-speaking middle-class families in Kolkata spanning two decades, the article charts continuities and subtle shifts in the way ‘love’ and ‘marriage’ are related in conversations, and how young women and their parents negotiate marriage in the context of middle-class consumerism, status competition, and uncertainty. |
| `In' analytical Note | Modern Asian Studies Vol. 50, No.4; Jul 2016: p.1147-1189 |
| Journal Source | Modern Asian Studies 2016-07 50, 4 |
| Key Words | Marriage ; Love ; Kolkata ; Middle-Class Families |